Setting the Stage
Do you, like me, often find it difficult to adopt the best attitude in trying situations?
Tuning in to a Different Station
Is there an alternative to the cacophony of Expectations Station?
Moving Along
Our first step in learning to minimize unhelpful Resistance is to accept that it will always be there.
Two Questions
If you are finding particularly hard to overcome resistance to inner expectations, please listen carefully to what your resistance is trying to tell you.
What Responsibility Is All About
I remember that, as a Rebel child, few ideas struck as much dread into my heart as the idea of Responsibility.
Freedom from Hoarding Disorder 5: My Vision
No mere ‘should’ could have sustained me over these years as my vision has done.
Freedom from Hoarding Disorder 4: Happiness is found in the process
Right now, sorting through the hoard and disposing of it is for me a celebration.
Freedom from Hoarding Disorder 3: Wielding the Powers of my Tendency
The key to making progress as a Rebel is: Desire based on Identity and Values.
Freedom from Hoarding Disorder 2: Where I Was and Where I Am Now
Any clear space that happens in our house is now mostly because of me.
Freedom from Hoarding Disorder 1: Lightbulb Moment
“Persistent difficulty discarding or parting with possessions, regardless of their actual value.”
The Four Delusions
A couple of years ago, I had a sudden insight about four different unconscious – and completely false – assumptions we can hold about ourselves.
Which Tendency am I?
No-one better to inform you on the ins and outs of the framework than its Discoverer. There is one caveat…
Legitimate vs. Illegitimate Expectations
Not all expectations are, in themselves, benign or even innocent. There is a need, and a pressing one, to challenge them.
Expectations – what’s the big deal?
Why would we even bother to consider what our individual gut-reaction is to expectations? What’s the big deal about? They might not seem like such a momentous thing, until we stop and think just how large a role expectations play in day-to-day life…
Labels? Types? No. Just Tendencies.
What is your reaction when someone starts talking about personality types?
The Four Tendencies Framework: what it is and isn’t
People have different instinctive reactions when they are faced with expectations: they either resist them, or have an urge to meet them. That was the simple, genius observation of author Gretchen Rubin. She followed it with a genius distinction…